The Gestalt Lens

Welcome to my blog, where I share my professional expertise on the subjects I encounter and think about every day in my therapy practice. I cover everything from mindfulness and mindset, to menopause, perfectionism, and boundary setting – all through the lens of Gestalt psychotherapy. Come to learn – and join in the discussion.

Alcohol and Caffeine: How Do They Interact Together? 

Self Help

Alcohol and Caffeine: How Do They Interact Together? 

Combining alcohol and caffeine is not a new occurrence - people have been combining the two substances since the mid-19th century. You will know these older combinations as Irish coffee, rum and coke, and Buckfast Tonic Wine. In my experience, it is best to avoid combining alcohol and caffeine. These substances have potential lethal consequences and it is not easy to use controlled drinking especially when you have very few physical reminders of when to stop.

At Home: The Professional Caregiver

Self Care

At Home: The Professional Caregiver

I am a caregiver by nature and I chose a profession as a caregiver. As a psychotherapist in private practice, I wear many hats and have many roles. Since I am a business owner and a one-woman show, I do everything that keeps the business operating and growing every day. The work I do as a therapist, under the umbrella of the business, is another role. I also own a home, I am a wife and a mom to a pack of four-legged creatures...

Codependency: Causes and Moving Towards Interdependence 

self help/codependency

Codependency: Causes and Moving Towards Interdependence 

Someone who is codependent believes their needs are not worth attending to nor have they ever learned how to feel, accurately name, or express emotions, needs or wants. They need others to tell them that their feelings and needs are valid, that their opinions are acceptable, that they are good enough and they rely on others for their identity and sense of worth.

I'm Afraid To Be Alone

Self Care

I'm Afraid To Be Alone

The fear of being alone can negatively impact relationships from friends and family, to romantic and professional relationships. Being fearful about being alone can end up being a self-fulfilling prophecy and ensure that you do end up alone giving you the opposite of what you want. What causes this fear and what can you do about it?

 From Frenzy to Focus: How We Can Cancel Hustle Culture & Create A New Sustainable Work Paradigm

Hustle Culture

From Frenzy to Focus: How We Can Cancel Hustle Culture & Create A New Sustainable Work Paradigm

“Hustle Culture” is an ethos often propounded by young self-proclaimed internet gurus that centers around the idea that working long hours and sacrificing self-care are required to succeed. This mentality may have gained popularity in the mid-2010s, but it has peaked, and now it has been sardonically renamed "Burnout Culture." So why exactly is Hustle Culture the wrong path to take? What damage can it cause? What is a viable, sustainable alternative to hustle culture? How can we move from Frenzy To Focus?